Flying So-Low

“All of my friends seem to be dating someone, and I am still single and have always been single. I feel really self conscious about myself and my self esteem is constantly being lowered. What should I do?”

-Flying So-Low


Dear Flying So-Low,

In high school, one of the biggest things in your personal life will be a relationship:

We want them, we partake in them, we envy them, we regret them, we crave them.

Its inevitable.

It’s all a part of growing up.

If you ask each person in your grade about their opinion on being involved in a relationship or relationships in general, you will get a different answer each time you ask.It all depends on the person.

One of the problems with craving a relationship when others are in one is that you quite often become envious or depressed because you feel as though you’re undesired. Maybe you’ve had past experiences where you’ve been ignored or you rarely talked to your crush, or maybe  you’ve been placed in the dreaded…

Friend Zone.


All of these things can make you feel terrible. Seeing other people smiling and laughing while they’re hugging their significant others can make your heart strings tug as you wish that you had that, and then you could begin to degrade yourself and feel as though you are unworthy for anyone and everyone.

The truth is, that is not true at all.

You are more than worthy; you’re a god(dess).

If you’ve been denied, placed in the Friend Zone, or have just been too shy to approach your crush, close your eyes, take a deep breath, and realize that it’s all gonna be okay.

You’re perfect the way you are.

If they can’t see that, forget them; they’re really missing out on an amazing person.

If you’re just holding up from approaching your crush, relax, take a deep breath, and  gain your confidence. What you need to remember is that they too are humans, just as you are. Hey, you never know, maybe they’re just as nervous to approach you!

When it comes to feeling down because everyone else is in a relationship, just remember that good things come to those who wait, and a good relationship will be worth the wait.

A lot of people say that “nice guys (and girls) finish last.” While that is often true, another thing that is true is that nice guys (and girls) finish best. A good relationship will come your way when the time is right; everything happens for a reason, even when the reason is making you lose all hope.

Remember, just as bad Karma does, good Karma also circulates. You’ll get your relationship as soon as a person who is suitable for you shows up in your life.

The best thing to do is to take a deep breath (noticing a pattern here?), smile, and walk up to people with confidence! You are flawless! Don’t let others get you down! You need to learn to see your true, amazingly wonderful worth by any means necessary. If that means sitting in your room and writing out a list of all of the positive qualities that you have, then do it! Life’s too short to sit around being sad.

Plus, you never know who could be falling in love with your smile.

Keep your chin up! 🙂